“A consequence of female self-love is that the woman grows convinced of social worth. Her love for her body will be unqualified, which is the basis of female identification. If a woman loves her own body, she doesn’t grudge what other women do with theirs; if she loves femaleness, she champions its rights. It’s true what they say about women: Women are insatiable. We are greedy. Our appetites do need to be controlled if things are to stay in place. If the world were ours too, if we believed we could get away with it, we would ask for more love, more sex, more money, more commitment to children, more food, more care. These sexual, emotional, and physical demands would begin to extend to social demands: payment for care of the elderly, parental leave, childcare, etc. The force of female desire would be so great that society would truly have to reckon with what women want, in bed and in the world.”
― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
Every Saturday here on NotOurStandard.com we will do a round-up of what we’ve been reading and seeing that is utter nonsense in the world of how women are treated differently than men. Sometimes they are wonderful takes on how to survive and thrive and sometimes they are just disappointing.
We were digging into workplace harassment and found a study by British online survey of 25,000 people carried out by workplace gender campaign Opportunity Now and global professional services firm PwC in 2014. And the results according to MSNBC were pretty upsetting. 52% of women report being bullied in the workplace. Oddly no mention of how many men reported feeling bullied in the workplace. But then only 2,166 men who took part in the study so maybe they just don’t worry about these things as much. Double standard perhaps? But based on the quote below they just don’t have as much to worry about.
While Inga Beale, the newly-appointed CEO of insurance market Lloyd’s of London, talked of an “automatic protectionism” among senior men – and said it was time for women to upset the status quo.
“At the moment we have guys protecting each other – it’s a club,” she said in the report.
“Women traditionally have not had that network of support that men tend to have, so in that sense they have nothing to lose by rocking the boat and challenging the way things are.”
Now on to a lighter topic! Your appearance. You are being judged by your appearance by your boss everyday.
According to the research, good grooming habits—looking “polished” or “pulled together”—is a professional’s most important physical asset. Women are judged more harshly here. While 83% of senior executives said “unkempt attire” (including wrinkled or too-tight clothing and visible lingerie) detracts from a woman’s executive presence, a slightly smaller percentage (76%) said it undermines a man’s.
Moreover, women’s professional polish includes tasteful accessories, manicured nails and a hairstyle versus a haircut. Whereas, a man’s polished look is based on clean nails, shiny shoes, a clean shave and manicured facial hair, according to the report.
“Ladies, we are at a massive disadvantage in the workplace. Your male peers are flirting with their male bosses constantly. The average workplace is like f*cking Bromancing the Stone. That’s basically what male bonding is. Flirting. They’re flirting with each other playing golf, they’re flirting with each other going to the football, they’re flirting with each other chatting at the urinals – and, sadly, flirting with each other in after-hours visits to strip clubs and pubs. They are bonding with each other over their biological similarities. If the only way you can bond with them is over you biological differences, you go for it. Feel pressurised to actually f*ck them if you do? Then don’t flirt. Find it an easy way to just crack on? Then crack on – and don’t blame other women for doing it.”
― Caitlin Moran, How to Be a Woman
Every Saturday here on NotOurStandard.com we will do a round-up of what we’ve been reading and seeing that is utter nonsense in the world of how women are treated differently than men. Sometimes they are wonderful takes on how to survive and thrive and sometimes they are just disappointing. Today we have disappointing stories.
How To Overcome Gender Stereotypes in The Workplace
We are SO confident this came from a good place in the author and assigning editor’s heart. Ladies get treated different so let’s help them overcome nasty stereotypes about women (we are mean, we gossip, we wear blouses that might show we have breasts, we cry). So they gave us this piece of advice
“Be excellent,” insists Brenda Fiala, Strategy SVP at Blast Radius. “Set for yourself an expectation of delivering excellent work, and strive to do it positively and consistently,” she says.
Gee, we hadn’t thought of that one. They also remind us to “appropriate wardrobe” (because that’s even a reality that is achievable) and “not be gossipy” if you think people believe women are gossips.
The Daily Wire Wildly Misconstrues Advice On Respecting Boundaries
Don’t ask her how she is doing. Don’t pay her a compliment. Don’t you dare ask her on a date. You know what, don’t even look at her.
Wow you mad bro (or I guess bro-ette as the author is also a woman) Bust has a piece with some swearing on how to respect people’s personal space when women are wearing headphones. We don’t want to tone police because you know what it is kind of weird when dudes come up to us when we are out for a run wearing our headphones. But the Daily Wire thinks that is just NOT OK Cool. Way to get offended at other people’s preferences.
“The beauty myth is always actually prescribing behaviour and not appearance.”
― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth