Saturday Standards Link Round-Up 1/21/17

Every Saturday here on NotOurStandard.com we will do a round-up of what we’ve been reading and seeing in the world of how women are treated differently than men. Sometimes they are wonderful takes on how to survive and thrive and sometimes they are just disappointing.

This is an oldie but goodie  (in that it helps enlighten, not that it is good) that Mother Jones published a few years back. The Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media (published a new (PDF) detailing the stereotypes, barrier, and sadly exploitation that define how badly women and girls are treated on screen. Go see the stats for yourself. 

Women are scarcer in prime-time shows and family films, and those films depict “fewer women in prestigious occupational positions,” the study notes. “Females are not only missing from popular media, [but] when they are on screen, they seem to be there merely for decoration.”WhoGetsToSpeak

If that is leaving you sad we’ve got some cheerful (kinda) from HerCampus analyzing some recent reports of gender bias lawsuits. It starts with a bummer of a story but the author takes it to a great place. When it comes to discrimination DON’T BE A TEAM PLAYER.

We must continue having these conversations and revealing these acts of sexism as a way to avoid normalizing them. Openly speak out and expose them. Embarrass the people who believe this sort of behavior is acceptable.

Sherry refers to the women who kept quiet about their experiences as “team players.” Of course, that definition of “team player” is one created by a male-dominated workplace: you’re a team player if you keep quiet about these injustices and develop a “thick skin.” I’m calling for the rebranding of “team player.” A team of men and women who support one another when they speak out about harassment in the workplace. A team that steps up to support a colleague experiencing harassment in the workplace and refuses to accept it.

This task shouldn’t fall solely on women. Men who see it need to speak up as well. It’s the unfortunate truth that a man speaking on sexism may be listened to more than a woman—especially by other men. That’s called exercising male privilege in a positive and effective way.

Saturday Standards Link Round-Up 1/14/17

Every Saturday here on NotOurStandard.com we will do a round-up of what we’ve been reading and seeing that is utter nonsense in the world of how women are treated differently than men. Sometimes they are wonderful takes on how to survive and thrive and sometimes they are just disappointing.

We were digging into workplace harassment and found a study by British online survey of 25,000 people carried out by workplace gender campaign Opportunity Now and global professional services firm PwC in  2014. And the results according to MSNBC were pretty upsetting.  52% of women report being bullied in the workplace. Oddly no mention of how  many men reported feeling bullied in the workplace. But then only 2,166 men who took part in the study so maybe they just don’t worry about these things as much. Double standard perhaps? But based on the quote below they just don’t have as much to worry about.

While Inga Beale, the newly-appointed CEO of insurance market Lloyd’s of London, talked of an “automatic protectionism” among senior men – and said it was time for women to upset the status quo.

“At the moment we have guys protecting each other – it’s a club,” she said in the report.

“Women traditionally have not had that network of support that men tend to have, so in that sense they have nothing to lose by rocking the boat and challenging the way things are.”              

 

Now on to a lighter topic! Your appearance. You are being judged by your appearance by your boss everyday. 

According to the research, good grooming habits—looking “polished” or “pulled together”—is a professional’s most important physical asset. Women are judged more harshly here. While 83% of senior executives said “unkempt attire” (including wrinkled or too-tight clothing and visible lingerie) detracts from a woman’s executive presence, a slightly smaller percentage (76%) said it undermines a man’s.

Moreover, women’s professional polish includes tasteful accessories, manicured nails and a hairstyle versus a haircut. Whereas, a man’s polished look is based on clean nails, shiny shoes, a clean shave and manicured facial hair, according to the report.

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Saturday Standards Link Round-Up 1/7/17

Every Saturday here on NotOurStandard.com we will do a round-up of what we’ve been reading and seeing that is utter nonsense in the world of how women are treated differently than men. Sometimes they are wonderful takes on how to survive and thrive and sometimes they are just disappointing. Today we have disappointing stories.

How To Overcome Gender Stereotypes in The Workplace

We are SO confident this came from a good place in the author and assigning editor’s heart. Ladies get treated different so let’s help them overcome nasty stereotypes about women (we are mean, we gossip, we wear blouses that might show we have breasts, we cry). So they gave us this piece of advice

“Be excellent,” insists Brenda Fiala, Strategy SVP at Blast Radius. “Set for yourself an expectation of delivering excellent work, and strive to do it positively and consistently,” she says.

Gee, we hadn’t thought of that one. They also remind us to “appropriate wardrobe” (because that’s even a reality that is achievable) and “not be gossipy” if you think people believe women are gossips.

The Daily Wire Wildly Misconstrues Advice On Respecting Boundaries

Don’t ask her how she is doing. Don’t pay her a compliment. Don’t you dare ask her on a date. You know what, don’t even look at her. 

Wow you mad bro (or I guess bro-ette as the author is also a woman) Bust has a piece with some swearing on how to respect people’s personal space when women are wearing headphones. We don’t want to tone police because you know what it is kind of weird when dudes come up to us when we are out for a run wearing our headphones. But the Daily Wire thinks that is just NOT OK  Cool. Way to get offended at other people’s preferences.